Hot and Not

           Friends, it is officially Summer here in Az.  We hit triple digit temps yesterday and today.   So while everywhere else in the world, people are freaking out about Spring getting it's shit together, it was 102 at my apartment.  Ridiculous.  However this got me thinking in a "Hot or Not" sort of way and I thought it would potentially be fun to share with you my hot or not thoughts on some things in our world.

Hot: Gwyneth Paltrow.  Let me list a few reasons why. 1-She wore this knockout number to the Iron Man 3 premier

  I don't know a whole whole lot about fashion, but that is killer confidence on People's Most Beautiful Woman.  2-when on the Ellen show she joked and laughed off critics views of her dress and how she couldn't wear underwear.  I don't really know many women or celebrities who would joke about "rockin a 70's type style"  when talking about showing off her goods.  3-Her second cook book "It's All Good" has already shot to number 1, and in it she shows off her natural beauty.  That's right, no make up, no hairstylist.  

Not: Chris Brown.  Do I really need to say why.  The fact that he still makes money and profits anything make me sad for society.  

Hot:  Marvel movies.  These movies aren't just for nerds anymore.  While they still appeal to die hard comic book fanboys (they stay very true to comic book story, straying not too far; rather expanding), they have gathered a higher following.  Soon they were appealing to action fans all over.  When news hit that Joss Whedon was on board, nerds everywhere rejoiced, bringing in more fans from cult followings like Firefly, Buffy, Dollhouse etc.  And the trend continues.  While more Marvel movies are in the works, plus a tv show centering around Shield, it seems that we are in store for a few more great years.  And ladies, I highly encourage you to see these movies.  Even if you are being "dragged" to these events, they have everything you could want.  Plus I mean, look at this eye candy.

Not: Sports Blogger Claire Crawford.  For those who have not seen this yet, the blogger wrote after  an Oklahoma City Game that one of the cheerleaders, Kelsey Williams was too pudgy.  It's pretty bad that women attack each other and treat each other like shit, but this takes bullying to a whole new level.  Claire Crawford, you're job is to blog about sports, not bully women into your ideal beauty standard.   

Hot: Staying motivated and living a healthy lifestyle.  Do your thang!  Eat healthier if you want.  Want to juice?  Feel free.  Raw vegan is right for you?  Right on.  Stay motivated, stay true and do what's best for you.

Not:  "Fitspiration."  A study was just released about all this "fitspiration" madness.  Two groups of people were asked to keep detailed food and workout journals.  One of these groups was also asked to post the so called fitspirational posts to help their progress.  In the end, the group with the fitspirational postings had higher depression, anxiety and tended to overeat as a result.  Now this is not necessarily how it is for all of us out there.  I'm sure some really do find them to be motivational and helpful.  But we should make sure that they are helpful and not hurtful to us.

    That's all I got for now lovelies.  If you have any hot or not suggestions, or would like to add on, feel free to comment below or find me on facebook at facebook.com/trista.tuzik and let me know!

xoxoxox

     Trista

Adults

           Hello all!  As you may (or maybe not) recall, I wrote a post a while back about my life plans, and crying when I turned 25.  Well a while back, I got my April issue of Cosmo and it had a one page article that was a "hot topic."  This month's hot topic was "What Does It Mean To Be An Adult?"  The article discuss who adults are idolizing now as well as their habits and interests.  They also pointed out three adult celebrities, Katy Perry 28, Zooey Deschanel 33, and Ke$ha 26.
             From here they discuss how the average age for marriage, children, minivans and careers has changed so drastically from the 60's.  All I can really say to that is thank God.  The thing that really got me interested was youth in Hollywood.  Mainly how this effects the everyday population.
           I think we can all agree that in the last few months we have seen a spike in different hair colors.  I've seen everything from blue to orange.  We aren't just covering up gray's anymore ladies.  We also take fashion advice from our favorite celebrities.  Gwyneth Paltrow has been wearing very neutral colors and then rocking a hot color shoe.  And I'm all in.  And just recently Jennifer Lawrence made it awesome to eat again with this quote

                 So how else is Hollywood youth translating in real life?  Well as I said before, the ages for "settling down" has gone up.  Home-owning specifically is up from 23 to 34.  This means we're putting off marriages, children and other "grown up" things.

         Why am I writing this to you, you ask?  Well I think it's just important for me to let you all know (as well as remind myself)  that it's ok to be the kid at heart.  Just the other day I posted on my facebook saying that I myself was amazed at my age sometimes.  I literally got really excited about new sheets.  Then the next morning, I seriously needed to dig through Harry Potter, Star Wars, Mario, Ninja Turtles, Iron Man and a smiley fruit shirt just to find something business casual to wear to work.  Figure out what you're own definition of success is and follow that.  Don't let someone else's expectations guide you.  

       So just so you all know, I'm 25, married, totally geeking out over Marvel movies, playing Lego Lord of the Rings, wearing Star Wars shirts and laughing at things I shouldn't.  But I'm happy with that.  So if I am just catching that youth bug that hollywood has, I'll take it.

Me, Myself and I and the Plans Life Made For Us.

            Friends, tonight I really wanna talk about plans and a little about my upbringing.  Let's rewind the clocks about twenty years.  I'm five years old.  As a kid, I always told my family that I wanted a nice big house, cool car.  Because as a kid, let's face it, we think anything is possible.  We see no limit to what we can accomplish, what can be ours, what we can do.  They told me to marry  rich.  In response, I told them that I didn't need to marry rich, I could take care of myself.
            Now along with being independent, I was also a bit of a dreamer.  I still am to be completely honest (I believe in a lot of "mythical beasts, aliens, ghosts and love at first sight. Clearly I'm bonkers.)  However, my dreamer status as far as what I wanted to be when I grew up varied so much.  I always wanted to be married, and live a crazy romantic life (never really fantasized having babies, though some in the future wouldn't be too bad).  I lucked out in this aspect though.  A very short list of my fantasy career list is as follows: astronaut, FBI agent, singer, artist, writer, actress, storm chaser, teacher and dancer.  I am also, evidently, horribly indecisive.
               As I grew up, my priorities changed, along with my view on things.  No one ever really told me that I couldn't do certain things.  I think my family genuinely believed me to be "perfect" or "successful" (whatever the hell those words mean).  Everyone encouraged me in the best ways, paying for any dance classes, field trips and generally anything I really wanted to do.  Every body told me I could do it, except one real bitch.  She was consistently putting me down, telling me I was stupid, or ugly, or that I couldn't do things.  What a whore.  How dare this rotten see you next Tuesday do that to me.  I'm telling you, I can be a real bitch to myself.
               With all this self hatred brewing inside me, I knew I needed a plan to get anywhere.  Clearly no one would marry me or want to be around me or befriend me if I was everything I kept telling myself I was.  I made very in depth plans.  I knew where I wanted to go to college, when I would be married by, when kids would be in my life, where I was going to work.  Hell I even had the suburban picked out I'd use to pick the kiddo's up from football.  I even knew where I would live and then where I'd spend my days after retirement.  The thing that no one really tells you when you're a kid though, is that life has other plans.
                In a solid attempt not to bore you with the details, I'll simply skip ahead and say that one day while in college, I realized you can't make plans.  Planning out all the details of your life isn't living.  Not too mention we change so much anyway.  We will not be the same person next year, nor are we the same people since last year.  Nothing really worked out the way my plans intended.  For example, I was supposed to have been married at 24, kids by 25, suburban by 26.
                  In addition to us changing and what we want or what we do changing, it's unwise to make plans anways.  Then when shit hits the fan, we aren't running around all confused, crazed and in a slight panic.  I don't think I'm this great philosopher or that I have all this life experience or that I'm wise.  But I can absolutely promise you this.  Things aren't going to go the way you thing.  Things change, plans fall through and the unexpected will happen.  One minute you'll have your footing, the next you are knocked on your ass.
                  So friends, do yourselves a favor and don't make plans.  Tell the ones that you love that you do.  Savor the moment.  Laugh loudly.  Be yourself.  Wear sunscreen.  Enjoy the little things. Smile.

     Until next time lovelies,
  Trista   xoxoxoxo

Surprise Surprise

                 Hello all!  So for this post, I need to be quite frank, if I may.  When I started my blog, I originally intended it to be a marriage of my favorite things.  I wanted to infuse things I came into contact with in my every day life, things I found on pinterest, diy/crafts, funny things, infused with my own take and humor.  However, I found myself being incredibly open and honest on this type of forum.  I saw an outlet for me to expand on my thoughts, my personal battles, my opinions on certain issues and  really the best way I could ever express myself.  What I was really shocked by, was how well you, my readers, responded.  As I said, I intended this to be the bridge in the gap for pinterest and mainly my facebook page.  So when the highest views came from pages about my personal life and personal opinions, I was pleasantly surprised.
                 Since this realization, I have been at a bit of a block.  How do I add something that is personal, interesting, entertaining and true to what I want to do?  It's a bit scary to be honest, and as I'm thinking about it now, I don't know how I'll do if I ever do get published.  But that's for me to discover later perhaps.
              Part of this shock was a bit telling if you know me. I can honestly say, I don't have the greatest self esteem.  I've worked very hard to get it to a good solid ok point that I'm at now and for the last year, I've been dealing with some frustration keeping it there.  But I genuinely was surprised at how interested people were to read the blog.  I found myself continuously asking myself why people read, why they visited, why they cared.  I'm still not entirely sure why all of the readers of this blog do care, but I will continue to revel in your love and take advantage of it.  Sorry for being a leech on you all, but you truly have no idea how much it helps.
               So now that I'm done being all mushy gushy with you, I will let you all in on some little known facts about yours truly.  These are all personal truths, some only revealed to a few people before.  Take them for what they are.

• I attended modelling and acting school.  I never acted on it, which I sometimes regret.  Acting would have been cool, and I really think Jennifer Lawrence and Olivia Munn and I could have been great friends.  
• I cried on my 25th birthday.  I was terrified and felt like I hadn't accomplished much.  I often compare myself too much.  
• I was diagnosed with depression at a young age.  I took pills, saw a therapist and all that jazz.  I know the source of my depression, though few others do.  And honestly I maybe should have been diagnosed much sooner.  
• I hate going to see doctors.  I hate being diagnosed.  See above.  I just think that the human experience is unique and unquantifiable.  So when someone tries to tell me whats wrong with me, it just tends to piss me off. 
• My Grandfather's passing had a very profound effect on me.  More so than people think.  Even those closest to me really have no concept of what it truly did to me.  I'm not sure if it was because I was so young, or because we were so close or what.
• I prefer a good balance of science and emotion.  I think humans in general are a bit naive and narrow minded when it comes to certain things.
• I believe in a lot of weird things.  Like supernatural things, cryptozoo-ology, aliens etc.  
• I am maybe one of the only people I know who never blamed themselves for their parents divorce.  It may sound egotistical, but I knew the problems were between them and not me.  
• My entire life, I've been accused of having different eating disorders like anorexia or bulimia.  I've never had either. My only eating disorder is that I'm maybe not the healthiest eater and I eat too frequently.  Like any chance I get.  
• I'm afraid to have children because I'm afraid I won't be a good Mom.  
• Sometimes I'm amazed people want to be my friend.  I will literally receive texts, facebook messages and stuff and wonder if the message was intended for me.  Must be a consequence of that pesky low self esteem.  
• I loathe magazines because they give me a false idea of what I should be, but I love them because they tend to tap my creative side.  
• If I could make money writing, reading, watching tv/zombie movies, and finishing my book, I would do it in a heartbeat.  
• I do miss old communication methods and I loathe how attached I am to my phone.  
• If I truly said what was on my mind most the time, I'd probably scare people.
• I know what I'm passionate about, but I am worried I can't make money doing it.
• I went to Australia for two weeks when I was in middle school.  It was the coolest experience ever, and I would like to go back.
• Anything Paris related sends my heart aflutter. 
• I went on a school trip to Washington DC when I was in middle school.  While at the FBI building my mom and I breached security without meaning to.  I feel like, had it really been an issue though, we would have been interrogated.  
• There are times when I think I belonged in another era.  Like maybe the 60's or 70's.  Then I think maybe in the 20's.  
• I think I am completely random at best.  My self expression will never be consistent other than it is completely mine.
• My ultimate goal in life is to change someone's life. 

               So there you have it.  Some confessions about me.  Hopefully this entertains you while I try to come up with something else to entertain you lot.  Any questions,comments,confessions of your own, or thoughts are as always greatly appreciated.   Also while we're at it, here are several ways to follow/keep up with/stalk me:

my pinterest page is here
Follow me on twitter at https://twitter.com/Trista819
And as always on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/trista.tuzik

Until next time...

 xoxoxoxo
      Trista